Here's something we should teach everyone from childhood, and I wish someone had told me when I was young.
Take care of yourself. Seriously, just do it. Put yourself first. Fulfill your needs. Do what makes you happy, gives you satisfaction, or gives you peace. Make time for yourself, time for whatever you desire.
Claim a section of your home that is yours, and yours alone. Have things which are not shared with anyone else. Go places and do things by yourself, and have fun.
Say no. Really, just say no, or "no, thanks" to all of the things which take your time, energy, or money, unless they're things that you truly wish to do. Don't feel guilty about it. In fact, stop feeling guilty. Don't do things because someone else says you should, or because of what others might think. Do things because you've thought it over, and have decided that it is in your best interests.
Live your life, be happy, enjoy, make terrific memories. Live your life on your terms. Find the things you love, whether it's a career, hobby, travel, learning, etc., and do it. Life is short. There's so much to see, and learn, and do. Someday, you will be too old, too tired, too infirm. Live with great memories, not regrets.
Don't spend your life miserable and unhappy. There's no reason to. Now, if being a miserable cow makes you happy, feel free to be that way, and wallow in it.
This isn't selfish, although others who want you to put their needs first will tell you that it is. Let them stand on their own two feet, support themselves, and accept responsibility for their own actions and behavior.
Note, I'm not talking about taking care of children or babies. Of course they're the priority. However, you can't fill a glass from an empty pitcher. That's why putting yourself first is so important. But do remember that they have another parent or a relative who can take over and give you a break.
You have one life on this amazing planet. Go enjoy it.
Thursday, July 20, 2017
Wednesday, July 5, 2017
Quiet, at last
It's almost two in the morning. The pain pill wore off hours ago, and I can't have another for a long while. Seems to be the story of my life lately. So, here I am, curled up on the love seat, an elderly German Shepherd snuggled with me, and a cozy throw is covering us both. It's quiet now. My fiancé is asleep in the next room. I just ordered several pairs of pretty new gloves to keep my hands warm. Those will be a welcome addition to my wardrobe. Wearing them is easier than being tethered to a heating pad most of the day.
Fireworks finally ended a couple of hours ago. The dogs gratefully headed outdoors to tend that which the noise delayed for many hours. Thankfully, we microchipped them this year, so losing them during things like Independence Day fireworks or on a road trip is no longer a concern.
I'm thinking of making a pot of cocoa. Planning a new backgammon board requires concentration and chocolate in equal quantities. A couple of weeks ago, I picked up a lovely tray, and have been considering the design of the game board, as well as the pieces to use with it. None of the boards that I make are ever done in a hurry. They reveal themselves to me over a period of time. I love the creative process. I'll lay out various tiles and pieces on the tray, shift them around periodically, and when the perfect combination is reached, I'll begin making the board.
Braille lessons are coming along. I'm getting good at writing in Braille, still slow at reading it. Hoping my speed will improve, but the arthritis in both hands laughs at the idea. Still, I persist. I've never let anything stop me before. Well, except for driving a car, riding a motorcycle, playing darts, shooting a gun or a bow, etc., that blindness put a halt to. I figure that every thing I've had to give up has another way to do it, like trading a car for an electric tricycle. I just have to figure out what it is.
My Stargazer Lilies are blooming along the front porch. Every time I open the door, the scent wafts into the house. I wish that they were a plant that would bloom continually all Summer. That would be such a lovely thing.
Enough for now...
Fireworks finally ended a couple of hours ago. The dogs gratefully headed outdoors to tend that which the noise delayed for many hours. Thankfully, we microchipped them this year, so losing them during things like Independence Day fireworks or on a road trip is no longer a concern.
I'm thinking of making a pot of cocoa. Planning a new backgammon board requires concentration and chocolate in equal quantities. A couple of weeks ago, I picked up a lovely tray, and have been considering the design of the game board, as well as the pieces to use with it. None of the boards that I make are ever done in a hurry. They reveal themselves to me over a period of time. I love the creative process. I'll lay out various tiles and pieces on the tray, shift them around periodically, and when the perfect combination is reached, I'll begin making the board.
Braille lessons are coming along. I'm getting good at writing in Braille, still slow at reading it. Hoping my speed will improve, but the arthritis in both hands laughs at the idea. Still, I persist. I've never let anything stop me before. Well, except for driving a car, riding a motorcycle, playing darts, shooting a gun or a bow, etc., that blindness put a halt to. I figure that every thing I've had to give up has another way to do it, like trading a car for an electric tricycle. I just have to figure out what it is.
My Stargazer Lilies are blooming along the front porch. Every time I open the door, the scent wafts into the house. I wish that they were a plant that would bloom continually all Summer. That would be such a lovely thing.
Enough for now...
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